Ok I remembered what I was going to say is that the particular feeling of love that is not fully true and whole is something that is rotting the church and contributing to an ongoing pretense.  The way gay people have to pretend to have feelings that they don't is something that the southern churches also are doing because of their denial of those people's actual selves. So it is institutionalized and a group show.

It is also sad and suffering.  It is a form of deep suffering and some people are so innocent and just don't know what to do.  And they don't deserve to be bullied for it by the rich, supremacist, arrogant north.